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5 things I learnt in the past year

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My previous two posts have been makeup related, and as much as I enjoy writing and creating them - I thought I'd give you a break and hit you with some real talk. It's such a cliché to say the time is passing me by in the blink of an eye, but honestly, 2019 was a whirlwind! I definitely had my ups and downs throughout the year, and learnt a lot on my way. Back in 2018, I wrote a post about the 5 things I wish I could've told my past self now, that I wish I would've known sooner (you can find this post here). Since that post was such a success, I decided to come up with something similar - and the past year has certainly given me a lot to talk about. So, keep on reading if you want to hear about the 5 things that the past year has taught me.....

Fast fashion is long gone!

The initial, and most recognisable, change that comes to mind when I think of the past 12 months is the decline of the "fast fashion" industry. Obviously, I know that this isn't a groundbreaking revelation, however, for myself this really was the year that I really began to consider my spending habits. The biggest impact on this is probably my career move from the high-street, to working with more luxury fashion retailers. Back in 2018, when working at Urban Outfitters, I was constantly searching for bargains, or trend-based items to purchase, and was out shopping on my lunch break most days of the week. This led to my wardrobe being jam packed, full of clothes that were worn once or twice, only to be long forgotten. Making the move to work for more high end, sustainable retailers really made me appreciate the famous Vivienne Westwood mantra: "Buy less, choose well, make it last". Obviously, we all still have a long way to go to a sustainable future, but I am excited to see what this year brings.

The grass isn't greener on the other side

Speaking of my career change, this leads me nicely to my next point. As I mentioned, 2019 had it's ups and downs - particularly when it came to my job. I can only just count the number of jobs I had in 2019 on one hand, and I can't begin to explain how much stress that can cause you. The majority of us can still feel and remember that 'first day at work' anxiety when starting a new job, well imagine that feeling 4 times over. A lot of you may know that 2019 was the year I landed my 'dream job' with my favourite clothing brand, and then left that same job. Sometimes when you spend years and years dreaming of something, the reality can not always live up to what you have imagined and I think this was the case for me. I now work in an amazing store, with great people, for a designer that I knew little about before bagging the job: and I couldn't be happier!

Don't wish - do

I've touched upon my hobby of pole dancing a couple of times here on my blog, and if you follow me on Instagram you'll probably be sick of seeing videos of my progress by now. If that's the case, I'm sorry (not sorry), they won't be stopping any time soon. For years, I 'wished' to take up pole, too scared to actually commit to the idea. 2019 was the year that all of this changed! I can't begin to describe my nerves on that very first day I decided to take part in a lesson, my anxiety almost made me run off home never to return. But I swallowed those nerves, got through those studio doors, and I've been there almost every week for the past 12 months. I'm astounded by what I have achieved in this time with my progression, and can't believe the strength and determination I have. I don't have any plans on slowing down, 2020 abs of steel incoming....

It's nice to be nice

I am the first person to admit that sometimes I can lose myself, and act in a way that isn't my true self. We are all guilty of acting on our emotions, I'm a woman: I'm stubborn, I'm grouchy, I'm grumpy, I'm me. When things started to get tough for me last year, I began to realise that we may not be able to give everything 100% of the time, but we can be nice. I'm not a New Year's resolution kind of person, but I did set myself the goal of "Be Kind". Good things come to those who do good things.

Keeping in touch is hard, and thats OK

Wouldn't it just be amazing if we could all remember to reply to messages, see each other every month, make it to everything we get invited to? Yes, it would be amazing: but it's also too good to be true. Unfortunately, life gets in the way time and time again and months can go by without speaking to some of our closest friends. I've always put pressure on myself to religiously check in on everyone I know, feeling guilty if I cancel on plans, or can't make it to the party. This past year I have come to realise that we all experience this, and just because a few months have passed by without seeing a friend, that doesn't take away from the fact that they are still exactly that, a friend. True friends are the ones who are there after the hiatus, and it feels as though you're picking up from exactly where you left off. As the warmer months approach, I can't wait to make plans with friends, old and new - without the pressure I used to put on myself!

There we have it - the 5 things that 2019 taught me. I hope you enjoyed this, more personal, style of post. Let me know what you think: and also the important things that the past year has taught you too, I'd love to hear it.


Until next time,




Hat - Le Kilt

Jumper - Fred Perry

Kilt - Le Kilt x Fred Perry (similar)

Boots - Dr Martens

Bag - Elizabeth Ilsley



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